This behavior is of a hydra-headed origin. It is not just a behavior that developed overnight, but an accumulated behavioral pattern that could be attributed to the home (neglect and or poor parenting), the effect of globalization arising from wrong values’ exportation and importation, a reflection of the high rate of moral decadence in the larger society (corruption and high rate of indiscipline among the leaders and the led), peer pressure and the desire to belong as well as fading values and demonization or demonic influence (Omede & Odiba, 2000). Each of these points is discussed in details.
1. Poor Parenting:Every child in a community whether good or bad has a home as well as parents. The influence of home environment on the development of children is not in any way doubtful (Omede and Odiba, 2000). The home is every child’s first window to the outside world. What the parents do with the child at this level in terms of training and orientation go a long way to determining what the child becomes tomorrow. Children live or die, thrive or wither, due to the decision of their parents (Gushee, 2004). It is from the parents that the child learns about values, beliefs and other forms of behavior acceptable to the community. The child is taught these through instructions, observations and practices from parents and other siblings particularly the senior ones. The implication of this is that parents must be seen to be morally exemplary. They are, according to Whitehurst (2004) the most important people in their children’s lives. But how many parents model good moral character?
How many of them give good attention to their children? Children are kept incommunicado as a result of the perpetual and prolonged absence of either or both parents from home for business and other engagements, social and or spiritual (Omede and Omede, 2004). As a result, the children are left to themselves, become rudderless or at best under the tutelage of nannies. Most parents have no time to check their children’s wardrobes and the implication of this is that they can wear anything in the form of dress.
Apart from this issue of neglect, many parents especially mothers buy anything in the form of dresses for their children. They did not see the need to be discreet and modest in the choice of dresses they buy. A little female child of less than three years is adorned with hair attachments, rosy chicks, and eye shadows so lavishly that she becomes an embarrassment to onlookers. This little girl is made to grow with this form of dress pattern and when she becomes of age, she finds it difficult to depart from this way of behavior or life (Egwim, 2010).
To be sincere, I doubt if most of our university ladies today own and tie wrapper apart from the one they use as coverlets in the nights. Improper home upbringing is a major factor responsible for this moral problem. When right values, beliefs and attitudes are concretely laid at the childhood stage such a child is more likely to grow and develop later in life healthily. Train a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not depart from it (Proverbs 22:6).
Apart from this issue of neglect, many parents especially mothers buy anything in the form of dresses for their children. They did not see the need to be discreet and modest in the choice of dresses they buy. A little female child of less than three years is adorned with hair attachments, rosy chicks, and eye shadows so lavishly that she becomes an embarrassment to onlookers. This little girl is made to grow with this form of dress pattern and when she becomes of age, she finds it difficult to depart from this way of behavior or life (Egwim, 2010).
To be sincere, I doubt if most of our university ladies today own and tie wrapper apart from the one they use as coverlets in the nights. Improper home upbringing is a major factor responsible for this moral problem. When right values, beliefs and attitudes are concretely laid at the childhood stage such a child is more likely to grow and develop later in life healthily. Train a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not depart from it (Proverbs 22:6).
2. The Society:
The child leaves in a community and so he/she is influenced by what goes on in the community either directly or indirectly (Gushee, 2004). The arrant display of moral decadence in the forms of corruption, indiscipline, prostitution, bribery and other forms of vices in the community at the full glare of youths and children call for great concern. Not even parents, teachers, government officials and community leaders including the spiritual leaders have the moral rights to challenge, correct and discipline erring youths and children because their slates are not clean. No section of the society-from the leadership to the led can be exonerated from morality problems as noted Okigbo in Nwabuisi (2006:6) “…how else can we explain a situation which the prophet cheat his priest, the priest his congregation, the judge the accused, the teacher the students, the doctor the patient and the ruler his subjects.” The youths are learning fast from what is going on in the society around them.
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